TEST EMOTIONAL IQ (2)

69. Talk to a trusted friend about his concerns.

70. What do you think Beverly was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was taken? (Beverly is the young woman)

Angry

Happy

Nervous

Love

Worried

Cannot be determined/none of the above

I don�t know

71. What do you think Samuel was most likely feeling at the moment this picture was taken? (Samuel is the man)

Neutral

Happy

Amused

Worried

Curious

Cannot be determined/none of the above

I don�t know

72. Imagine that this couple is on a blind date. They�ve been having an ok time, but Beverly feels that now Samuel is coming on a little too strong, and is being a little too forward. Knowing this, and seeing her expression, she was most likely feeling which one of the following emotions?

Furious

Happy

Uncomfortable

Fearful

Restless

I don�t know

73. Samuel perceives things differently. He thought he saw some signals and he decided to make a move, so that she would know he�s interested in her. When she rejects him, he most likely would feel which of the following emotions?
Embarrassed

Happy

Furious

Shocked

Hopeful

I don�t know

What�s the best way for the two of them to get over this uncomfortable moment and move on? Assume that both parties still want things to work out between them. Rate each of the following options in terms of effectiveness.



Totally ineffective Totally effective
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11
74. She should force herself to go along with what he wants.

75. Both of them should speak up about what they are comfortable with.
76. He should go along with what she wants.
77. They should just forget about dating, it�s obviously not going to work out.

78. They should talk about their past relationships so each of them can understand where the other is coming from.

79. She should tell him to back off and then go on as they were before he started coming on too strong.

80. I have ________confidence in my abilities.

no

little

some

a lot of

complete

81. For me, it is best:

not to set goals at all and just go with the flow.

to set goals that are a piece of cake to reach.

to set goals that are challenging, yet still possible to achieve.

to set goals that are so challenging that they are very difficult to achieve.

to set goals that are practically impossible to achieve.


82. I am most motivated when I:

picture the worst possible outcome and then do my best to avoid it.

picture the best possible outcome and then do my best to achieve it.

picture the expected outcome and then do my best to achieve it.

picture the acceptable outcome and then do my best to achieve it.

ignore all possible outcomes and just do what needs to be done.

83. I talk about my most intimate issues with just about anybody, anytime, under any circumstances.

Exactly right. I am willing and able to share just about anything.

It depends; I share and discuss my intimate issues with some people, but there are a few circumstances where it can be inappropriate.

It depends; I share and discuss my intimate issues with some people, but in most circumstances, it is inappropriate.

No way. Intimate issues should not be discussed with anybody except for the closest family members or friends.

No way. People should deal with intimate issues by themselves.

84. If I had a major problem that I�d been struggling with for a long time (i.e., more than a month), I would:

deal with it by myself.

consult friends or family members for advice and support.

consult my therapist or counselor for advice and support.

submerge myself in unrelated things to distract myself.

try to forget about it.

85. Which of the statements below describes you best?

I am unable to make acquaintances or friends.

It is very difficult for me to make new friends and acquaintances.

I make acquaintances with some difficulty and it takes even more time to make a really good friend.

I make acquaintances easily but it takes some time to make a really good friend.

I make acquaintances and friends easily.
86. Speaking out about negative emotions is:

always healthy, regardless of the circumstances.

generally healthy, but inappropriate in some circumstances.

generally unhealthy, but necessary in some circumstances.

always unhealthy, regardless of the circumstances.
87. Temperature-wise, rage can best be described as�

Frigid

Chilly

Luke warm

Hot

Scalding

I don�t know

88. If one had to compare happiness to a weather condition, it would most likely be called�

Stormy

Cloudy

Snowy

Variable

Sunny

I don�t know

89. In western culture, the color blue is most closely associated with�

Excitement, curiosity

Hopefulness, relief

Security, stability

Fatigue, frustration

Calm, tranquility

I don�t know

90. In western culture, the color red is most closely associated with�

Innocence, purity

Rage, passion

Power, strength

Stability, stubbornness

Fear, uncertainty

I don�t know

91. Which feelings would most likely be present in elementary-age children on their first day back to school?

Sadness, excitement

Surprise, nervousness

Anger, shock

Disgust, disappointment

Nervousness, excitement

I don�t know

92. Which emotion would most likely arise in a physician who is about to testify in court on his or her own behalf in a malpractice suit (the doctor inadvertently administered the wrong medicine to a patient, causing permanent damage)?
Nervousness

Surprise

Frustration

Anger

Excitement

I don�t know
93. Which state of mind would be best for someone who is about to testify on his or her own behalf in a trial?

Pride

Worry

Calm

Alarm

Frustration

I don�t know

94. When is the best time to bring up a sensitive topic that often causes arguments with a loved-one? When he or she is feeling�

Stressed

Relaxed

Joyful

Excited

Angry

I don�t know

95. If there�s a sensitive topic that often causes arguments between you and a loved-one, when is the best time to bring up? When you are feeling�

Angry

Calm

Happy

Frustrated

Anxious

I don�t know

96. Bob is experiencing an emotion that causes his heart to race. He�s sweating, feels paralyzed and can�t seem to catch his breath. What emotion is he likely feeling right now?

Surprise

Anger

Fear

Sadness

Happiness

I don�t know

97. Juliet is tingling all over. She�s got butterflies in her stomach and she�s experiencing difficulty concentrating. What emotion is she most likely feeling?

Fear

Sadness

Frustration

Love

Happiness

I don�t know

98. Sarah�s body feels heavy. She lacks energy and her stomach is in knots. She�s not able to sleep and her body feels weak. What emotion is she most likely feeling?

Excitement

Anger

Sadness

Rage

Terror

I don�t know

99. A young man is about to go on a first date with someone he�s had a crush on for months. He likely feels mixed emotions, mainly ___________ and __________.

jealousy, sadness

joy, pride

curiosity, fear

happiness, curiosity

excitement, nervousness

I don�t know

100. Trey and Valerie, a married couple, are having an argument about Valerie�s work schedule. She seems to be a workaholic, spending almost all of her time at the office, or worrying about the office when she is not at work. As a result, they spend hardly any time together. Trey likely feels mixed emotions, but mainly he feels _________ and ________.

alarm, relief

insecure, rage

fearful, annoyed

insecure, happy

lonely, frustrated

I don�t know

101. A woman is driving to work when another driver cuts her off. The driver of that car is a man who is late to meet his family at the airport. The woman likely feels _______ towards the man, who most likely feels ________ about being late.

insecurity, unease

stressed, angry

disappointment, regret

curiosity, frustration

angry, stressed

I don�t know.
102. Interest becomes________ when someone finds out that the person s/he has feelings for likes him/her back.

panic

surprise

curiosity

excitement

disgust

I don�t know

103. Annoyance becomes _________ when a person who is already difficult to deal with starts insulting you.

indifference

anger

panic

admiration

surprise

I don�t know

104. Fear would likely become __________if a young child, after being hit by his parent, were put into solitary confinement.

alarm

rage

indifference

panic

despair

I don�t know

105. Happiness and sadness mixed together in the same individual would feel�

infuriating

tragic

confusing

scary

bittersweet

I don�t know

106. Curiosity mixed with nervousness would feel like the following�

happiness

anticipation

excitement

terror

unease

I don�t know

According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is very poor. People who score like you do feel that they have trouble dealing with their own emotions and those of others. They struggle to overcome difficulties in their lives and they are unable to control their moods. It�s hard for them to understand how best to motivate themselves and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions quite difficult, for several reasons. They may have trouble allowing themselves to get close with others, finding it difficult to be vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having trouble offering support to others, likely due to the fact that they do not understand where others are coming from or they lack ideas about how best to help. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.